Struggles of being 20 Something

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"Stuck in them 20 somethings/ Good luck on them 20 something's/ God bless them 20 Something's"-SZA

When I turned 20, for the first time in my life I felt as though it was a very significant birthday. I believe its because I envisioned the 20s to be my formative years and that I have to try to get myself together. Since then I have been observing the journey of different people in my life who are in their 20s.

I feel its a time when we are too hard on ourselves. It's as though society sets a timer for 10mins once we hit 20 and every year that goes by we lose a minute. Everyone starts comparing themselves to one

another, with the usual "you're so lucky you get to do this, I wish I could do the same" and " why don't I have that?". To be honest I think we are all insecure as a result of uncertainty and the tendency to compare other's accomplishments with our own. Will I graduate with the perfect results? Will I find my dream job? Where will I live in the next 5 years? When will I find the right person? Am I making the right decisions? How many sacrifices do I have to make?Am I even living a good life?

Truth is I ask myself some of those questions sometimes but my dad always says, do your best in everything you do and the rest will follow. And what that simply means to me is that I have to be the best version of myself, not based on people's standards but mine, that way I will be satisfied with whatever comes my way. Yes you can make plans, but plans fail and you get disappointed.

Life is like building a house without prior experience, that means we have to learn how its done overtime before it can ever be complete. The beauty of this time in our lives is to actually start laying a foundation for the future, as opposed to having a "house" done by 30. And in order to lay that foundation we need to find the right materials, however that is an on going process that has no specific timeframe.

A few notes to end with

- Comparison is the thief of joy, stay in your lane and be the best you there could ever be, but don't be  too hard on yourself either.

-Lastly, its never too late, technically I will soon be left with 8 minutes on my 20s clock but who cares.  Honestly if you let age determine your whereabouts in life, you will probably live a stressful life. Ain't nobody got time for that!

We won't forever be stuck in them 20 somethings but good luck on them 20 something's and God bless them 20 Something's